The Sneaky Trick to Being Likable in Interviews
Sep 12, 2016
We’ve all been on a job interview and thought, “What can I do to make this person like me enough to offer me the position?” That’s because it takes more than experience to get the job. If the hiring manager doesn’t think you’re a “cultural fit” (a.k.a. your personality wouldn’t mesh with the rest of the team), you’re out of luck.
Well, it turns out you may have more control during the interview over the hiring manager’s opinion of you than you realize …
Studies Show Mimicry Makes You More Likable
In his new book, Invisible Influence: The Hidden Forces That Shape Behavior, Jonah Berger offers evidence to support the use of discreet mimicry as a way to connect with someone you are trying to influence. Berger says, whether we realize it or not, humans are hardwired to imitate one another and react to being imitated. Specifically, he cites studies in which individuals who subtly mimicked their opponent were five times more likely to get what they wanted in negotiations than people who didn’t. And, while the hiring manager isn’t necessarily your opponent, she or he is someone you need to win over. Which means, if you want that job, it’s time to pay attention to the interviewer–and act accordingly!
Body Language + Facial Expressions = Mimicry Success
While you should read the book to better understand the conceptand how not to “overdo” your mimicry, here are some simple tips for doing a better job of mirroring in the interview.
Tip No. 1: Pay attention to the interviewer’s level of animation.Some people are more controlled in their body language (i.e., don’t move a lot and keep their hands in one place), whereas others are more animated (i.e., use their hands when talking and move around in their chairs). Paying attention to the energy level of the interviewer’s animation can help you adjust your own style accordingly.
Tip No. 2: Follow his or her facial expressions. Similar to the animation level of their body language, some people are more reserved (i.e., don’t smile a lot and are harder to read), whereas others are more expressive (i.e., use facial expressions to convey their feelings on a subject). Consider adjusting your own facial expressions and voice tone to mimic those of the hiring manager.
Safest Way to Nail the Job Interview? Prepare!
While mimicry could help you be more likable in your next interview, nothing is as effective as proper preparation. Thorough interview prep is a vital part of building up your self-confidence so you can stay calm and nail the interview. Plus, the more prepared you are, the more likely you’ll be to have the presence of mind to pull off some mimicry with success.
From: J.T. O’Donnell (Founder and CEO of CareerHMO.com)